Words of wisdom are needed

Okay..., I am probably creating troubles for you guys by asking this, but
what would you do if you are in a situation like this.... A
coworker/friend of mine who I had some bad relationship..., but I still
want to let him know I am still okay and would like to keep the friendship
normal (obviously it's not realistic to keep the relationship as good as
before). It seems like he just wants to ignore me. I am beginning to have
suspicion that it's his roomate who is giving him some clouds of suspicion
on me. So it's like he doesn't trust me much so it doesn't matter how nice
I talk to him, he doesn't seem to be the one who want to be the one who is
doing the forgiving. What would you do under this situation? Not very
easy situation..., since he is a coworker and he is also younger (he is
very insecure at times and likes to prove his manhood or something).

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Ashikaga a27

On Mon, 13 Mar 2006 06:44:37 GMT, Ashikaga <citizenashi DeleteThis @yahoo.com>
wrote:

>Okay..., I am probably creating troubles for you guys by asking this, but
>what would you do if you are in a situation like this.... A
>coworker/friend of mine who I had some bad relationship..., but I still
>want to let him know I am still okay and would like to keep the friendship
>normal (obviously it's not realistic to keep the relationship as good as
>before). It seems like he just wants to ignore me. I am beginning to have
>suspicion that it's his roomate who is giving him some clouds of suspicion
>on me. So it's like he doesn't trust me much so it doesn't matter how nice
>I talk to him, he doesn't seem to be the one who want to be the one who is
>doing the forgiving. What would you do under this situation? Not very
>easy situation..., since he is a coworker and he is also younger (he is
>very insecure at times and likes to prove his manhood or something).
Well, I would say this: Ashi, at times you tend to over-think things,
making problems bigger than they are. if you keep pressing,people want
to push away. At work, there can be temporary fallings-out between
workers, but rarely are people immature enough to at least think that,
given a little time and space, employee relations can be repaired. I
have some people that have worked for me for 20 years and
occasionally, they piss me off. Do I say anything about it? Not if
it's not affecting customers or the overall job. I always feel better
quickly, and can overlook others' faults because they also have to put
up with mine. You have faults, so does he. Overlook them and move on.
Hope that wasn't cruel(not trying to be) but as one with many more
years in the workplace, some things just are not worth making a
problem out of.
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Optician Dragon
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