Welcome vs. Unwelcome Advice (?)

External Since: Aug 07, 2006 Posts: 2

Ok, reality check.

This morning I get on with my 39.9 hunter and my wife shows up with her
42 warlock to help me to a quest or two to hit 40. Said hi to the only
person on in the guild I joined last night, we talked, she said she'd
be glad to join. About a 34 Priest, if memory serves me well. We met
up and started killing miners and getting crystals on the side of a
hill in goofy terrain. A Druid shows up and starts doing the same quest
a the same time, so it gets a little confusing as to which hit is
which, etc.

Suddenly, the priest starts asking questions of the Warlock (who
happens to be played by none other than my wife) about why this minion
and not that, etc. Then, slowly, a she dosn't stop I realize she's
starting to tell my wife how to play the thing -- where's your imp, why
not a VW cause it's better, etc. etc. etc. etc. My wife, angel that she
is, ignores it, but is upset to have somebody out of the blue start
offering to play her character for her.

I get the last crystal, the lock and the priest both died, my wife
logged out because she had to go get a daughter registered in school.
Now, I voiced disapproval of somebody spewing out constant advice
without being asked, got some answer back, and promptly /ignored the
person. In comes another wsp from her husband saying I had put the
guild head honcho on ignore. I said I didn't care WHO it was, if a
level 60 in Epic showed up and started pontificating about how a
certain character SHOULD be playing his character, they're out of
there. I promptly quit the guild.

This guy and I talked, and thought we had it more or less settled, he
told me how difficult his wife can be, but then he flared up at me
again, so I just signed off and went to work.

Now, as the "group leader" or as the "husband" or as a "concerned
co-player", am I wrong? I hunt up level 60s, let's say, and ask
permission to ask them questions about their builds, pets, etc, and
usually find some insanely nice people. I wouldn't ever personally
think of suddenly setting up a class on playing a party member's
character by remote control or constant, unending suggestions.

Anyway, I'm still bewildered and, frankly, pissed. My wife? She's in
line over at the school.

Best,

External Since: Dec 15, 2005 Posts: 221

You'll run into these types of people from time to time. At lvl 60,
it's especially annoying to have people telling you what you should
have put your talent points into (yes I'm a frost mage and don't have
Improved Blizzard. Sue me.).

Luckily my guild generally is pretty good about this and the only
complaints I've gotten have been from people in PUG's (which is why I
very, very rarely do PUG's anymore).

BTW, why not post the guild name and server? It would help others get
a better picture of the guilds in general. No sense making somebody
else find out about their attitude on their own.

Mike

BRob239.DeleteThis@yahoo.com wrote:
> Ok, reality check.
>
> This morning I get on with my 39.9 hunter and my wife shows up with her
> 42 warlock to help me to a quest or two to hit 40. Said hi to the only
> person on in the guild I joined last night, we talked, she said she'd
> be glad to join. About a 34 Priest, if memory serves me well. We met
> up and started killing miners and getting crystals on the side of a
> hill in goofy terrain. A Druid shows up and starts doing the same quest
> a the same time, so it gets a little confusing as to which hit is
> which, etc.
>
> Suddenly, the priest starts asking questions of the Warlock (who
> happens to be played by none other than my wife) about why this minion
> and not that, etc. Then, slowly, a she dosn't stop I realize she's
> starting to tell my wife how to play the thing -- where's your imp, why
> not a VW cause it's better, etc. etc. etc. etc. My wife, angel that she
> is, ignores it, but is upset to have somebody out of the blue start
> offering to play her character for her.
>
> I get the last crystal, the lock and the priest both died, my wife
> logged out because she had to go get a daughter registered in school.
> Now, I voiced disapproval of somebody spewing out constant advice
> without being asked, got some answer back, and promptly /ignored the
> person. In comes another wsp from her husband saying I had put the
> guild head honcho on ignore. I said I didn't care WHO it was, if a
> level 60 in Epic showed up and started pontificating about how a
> certain character SHOULD be playing his character, they're out of
> there. I promptly quit the guild.
>
> This guy and I talked, and thought we had it more or less settled, he
> told me how difficult his wife can be, but then he flared up at me
> again, so I just signed off and went to work.
>
> Now, as the "group leader" or as the "husband" or as a "concerned
> co-player", am I wrong? I hunt up level 60s, let's say, and ask
> permission to ask them questions about their builds, pets, etc, and
> usually find some insanely nice people. I wouldn't ever personally
> think of suddenly setting up a class on playing a party member's
> character by remote control or constant, unending suggestions.
>
> Anyway, I'm still bewildered and, frankly, pissed. My wife? She's in
> line over at the school.
>
> Best,