Check out
www.ddo.com as they have an extremely active message board.
>From what I gather there (and in some reviews, try gamespot.com and
search for ddo) the game is very enjoyable as long as you are
comfortable finding (or bringing) a group of 4-6, don't want to solo
much at all, and can handle some differences in how things are handled.
I haven't played DDO yet, though, as I'm mostly a solo player.